DEAR ABBY: My wife of 20 years died recently. I was hospitalized a few months later and nearly died myself.
I needed help at home as I have three young children. My brother's wife offered to help. I had dated her many years ago when we were kids and I was attracted to her then. As time has gone on, we have become very close and the sparks have been reignited. I feel terrible, but at the same time I have always had feelings for her.
She told me she and my brother haven't been getting along and she is no longer attracted to him. I like her a lot, but I love my brother, too. What should I do? -- BROTHERLY LOVE ON THE WEST COAST
DEAR BROTHERLY LOVE: What you should do is thank your sister-in-law for her help, and hire someone to take care of your children. That's what you should have done in the first place. Then join a singles group and put out the word that you would like to meet someone. I guarantee you won't be lonely long. And it will give your brother and sister-in-law a chance to work out their difficulties, which is the honorable thing to do.