DEAR ABBY: You probably have heard things like this before, but I don't know where to turn.
I have been dating "Jeff" for five years and we have a lot of fun together. Last week Jeff proposed marriage and -- I choked! Now I'm having doubts about everything, and he's getting impatient with me because I haven't given him an answer.
Things are not going the way I had hoped, Abby. Everything is falling apart. Does this happen often? How do I know if he's the right one? -- PANICKED IN PITTSBURGH
DEAR PANICKED: It doesn't happen "often," but panicking at making a lifetime commitment certainly isn't unheard of. You need to relax, calm down, and realize that you have spent five enjoyable years with Jeff or the relationship would have ended. Then ask yourself how you would feel about a lifetime of similar experiences, and you'll have the answer you're looking for. I hope you'll be very happy together.