DEAR ABBY: I have an etiquette question my friends and I are wondering about. What is an appropriate response when you find out someone is expecting but she doesn't want to be? "Congratulations" doesn't seem right, but neither does, "You have my sympathy." I feel lost when this situation comes up. Do you have any ideas? -- MELISSA IN KANSAS
DEAR MELISSA: How about, "I heard the news. If there is anything you need, please let me know."