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by Abigail Van Buren

Man's Relentless Badgering Makes Wife Doubt Her Sanity

DEAR ABBY: I live with a wonderful woman with whom I am completely in love. I know she feels the same. My problem is she won't tell me what year she was born. I know she's older than I am, but by how much I don't know.

She told me that in her previous relationships her husband and boyfriend left her for younger women. I've told her age has nothing to do with how I feel about her, but she's afraid that if I know her exact age I will leave. I have done all I can to reassure her, but she still won't tell me.

What can I do to make her understand that her age is unimportant to me so far as how I feel about her? Or should I just forget about ever knowing her true age? -- IN LOVE IN SAN ANTONIO

DEAR IN LOVE: You've done all you can. Your lady friend has been "snake bit" twice. So if you really love her and don't care about her age, drop the subject, since you know it's a painful one for her. Got it?