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by Abigail Van Buren

Teenager Needs Help Dodging Questions About His Dating Life

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 16-year-old male high school sophomore in what I think is a pretty common predicament. A lot of my friends have had sex, and some are having it pretty regularly. Abby, I've never even kissed a girl!

How can I deflect attention from myself when my friends ask me how far I've gone? And what can I do to make sure I am not in this spot forever? -- IN THE MINORITY IN PALATINE, ILL.

DEAR IN THE MINORITY: Some of your friends may be having sex, but I have a flash for you. A lot of the boys who say they are may be lying to each other.

You don't need to "deflect" attention from yourself when the guys start asking about something that isn't their business. News has a way of traveling -- fast. If they're your friends, they would know if you were interested in someone and the feeling was mutual. If you're asked, just say you're not seeing anyone.

P.S. In order to kiss a girl (etc.), you first have to become friends with one. Be patient and let nature take its course. You won't be in this "spot" forever. It'll happen when the time is right.