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by Abigail Van Buren

Grieving Daughter Rebuffs Friends' Comforting Words

DEAR ABBY: My husband is a wonderful man with many interests and activities. We have an active social life and friends of all ages. My problem is he constantly tells everyone about his ailments, medications and medical issues no matter how big or small.

I am uncomfortable with this topic because I don't feel these are things you bring up with people other than your family or your doctor -- and certainly not in casual conversations with anyone who will listen. Am I wrong? -- MARY IN NEW HAMPSHIRE

DEAR MARY: You are correct. For the most part, casual acquaintances are not interested in hearing an "organ recital" when they ask the casual, "How are you?" In fact, sooner or later they avoid people who constantly complain and talk only about themselves. The popular person is the one who shows an interest in others.