DEAR ABBY: I have two great-nephews. I would like to invite one of them to help me on a big shopping trip, but I don't want to include his brother.
The 10-year-old is a sweet boy who always shows respect for his elders. His 12-year-old brother is a smart-mouth, arrogant know-it-all. How can I invite one without having to put up with the other? -- GREAT-AUNT SUSIE ON THE EAST COAST
DEAR GREAT-AUNT SUSIE: Just pick up the phone and ask his mother if you can bring the younger boy along to help you on the trip. Don't mention the older boy. And if his mother brings him up, tell her what you have told me. However, if you plan to shower the younger one with gifts on that trip and "forget" the older one, I'd advise against it because it will create resentment and the target will be the younger boy.