DEAR ABBY: My family and I recently went to a hibachi restaurant for dinner. The chef was great and the food was OK. We enjoyed ourselves.
When the customers next to us left the table after their meal, the chef looked confused -- as if he were expecting a separate tip from the server's. I have never tipped a chef separately. Is that wrong? -- SHELLI IN BROOKLYN
DEAR SHELLI: If the chef was cooking your meal to order, then he (or she) should have received a gratuity separate and apart from your server. It is never "wrong" to tip someone who gives you good service -- at least not here in the United States.