DEAR ABBY: My sister has two grandchildren, whom I adore. I would like to take them places and do things with them, but my sister, who has a severe weight problem and is unable to walk, won't let me unless I'm willing to push her around in her wheelchair and take her, too.
I feel bad for the kids because they rarely get to do anything. I have thought about going around my sister to their mother, but it would probably make my sister mad. The children's mother has little money, and the father is not in the picture. Do you think I can justify putting the kids before my sister? -- GREAT-AUNT WHO CARES IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR GREAT-AUNT: Your mistake was in allowing your sister to make those children part of a package deal in the first place. You should not exclude her permanently, but there is no reason why she must be included on every excursion. By all means talk to their mother.