DEAR ABBY: How do I get a person to stop regifting me? Often it's her used clothes, used decor and knickknacks that she no longer wants. This person can afford nice things, which is why she thinks I would like her old stuff. I find it insulting when I get it in the form of a gift. It is always wrapped beautifully and presented as though I should be so grateful.
I might also add that this person will never keep a gift she receives if it's not exactly what she wants or matches her decor. How do I tactfully get this to stop? -- SECONDHAND ROSE
DEAR ROSE: If I selected a gift for someone and she didn't keep it -- or exchanged it -- I would give it one more try. If it happened again, from then on I would send a lovely card to mark the occasion, or a bouquet or plant. And if I was really ticked off, I would regift her gift back to HER.
P.S. Another thought: When you open her regift, smile and say, "Oh, honey. I can't keep this. You're too generous -- and it looked too nice on your shelf."