DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Andy," is a Marine. When he was fighting in Iraq, he sent me e-mails saying how much he missed me and couldn't wait to be with me.
When Andy came home, he was a completely different person!
We got pregnant soon after, and he seemed OK with it at first. Then he was sent back to Iraq. He started fighting with me long-distance and telling me to get an abortion, but he said he still loved me.
About two months ago, he stopped telling me he loves me. He never talks about our baby that's due soon. He has never helped financially.
Andy is now back from Iraq, and he says he loves me but has "a lot to work out." He's so distant now. What should I do? Please help. -- IN LOVE AND HURTING
DEAR HURTING: You both need help. Your boyfriend may be suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. Fortunately, there is help for it through the Veterans Administration. Please urge him to get it now before it affects his future -- and yours and the baby's.
Until Andy is emotionally stronger, you will have to find support from friends and family. I wish you both luck.