DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 30 years. My wife and I have not had sex for the past 20 of them. We have no children.
My wife does like undressing in front of me, but then she quickly covers herself. We are always friendly -- very friendly -- to each other. At night we sleep in the same bed, but we do not mention sex, and have not mentioned it for 20 years. Can you give me some advice? -- READER IN SAN FRANCISCO
DEAR READER: Only this: Mention sex! Since you are on friendly terms, you are long overdue for a frank discussion regarding both of your feelings on this important subject. Perhaps she has been waiting for you to bring it up.