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by Abigail Van Buren

Mom Lets Daughter Down by Urging Her to the Altar

DEAR ABBY: I am a 35-year-old woman with two kids. I have been about 80 pounds overweight for the last 10 years. My mom drives me crazy because all she talks about is my weight. Yesterday she said, "If someone gave you $10,000 to lose 50 pounds, would you do it?"

Mother's remarks have strained our relationship. I can't stand being around her. Should I put my foot down or just drop it? -- TIPPING THE SCALES IN TEXAS

DEAR TIPPING THE SCALES: Your mother harps on your weight because she is concerned about your health. The next time she brings up the subject, say, "I know you're worried about my weight because you love me. But this is a battle I must fight myself. No one can do this for me. I will deal with this issue when I am ready." If she continues to raise the subject, repeat your statement. It's the truth.