DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship with "Chuck" for eight years. We have lived together for seven.
Chuck and I haven't been physically intimate for more than five years. He long ago stopped saying those sweet "I love yous" every woman wants to hear.
I suspect that he doesn't love me anymore, and that he's having an affair with his ex-wife. I'm a good cook and I've always taken good care of him when he gets sick. I think that Chuck is living with me out of convenience.
What do you think I should do? Please don't tell me to leave him, because I haven't got the courage. -- STUCK AND UNHAPPY
DEAR STUCK AND UNHAPPY: Gather your courage, count to 10, and chuck Chuck. I guarantee that once you take the step, you'll experience enormous relief. I wouldn't wish anyone I cared about the life you are living now. You are a giver. You deserve to be happy and cherished, and you shouldn't settle for anything less.