DEAR ABBY: I am a 15-year-old girl, and my parents split up a couple of weeks ago. I didn't see it coming because they always acted like they were happy together. My mom and dad have both talked to me about it, but I feel like they're trying to make me choose sides.
Mom is forever asking me if I'm OK, and I always say yes, but I'm not so sure. I can't talk to my father because we aren't as close -- we never were. Also, I don't see him as much anymore and he rarely calls.
My grades have dropped, and I've been falling asleep in some of my classes. Dad thinks I'm depressed, but I don't agree. I don't know how to explain what I'm going through. My parents don't understand. Abby, please help me because I don't know what to do. -- LOST AND CONFUSED IN STAFFORD, VA.
DEAR LOST: Your father may have more insight than you have given him credit for. The signs of depression can be subtle. Among them are sleep problems.
Please level with both of your parents about your feelings. Your reaction to the divorce is normal. You should also speak to a counselor at school. Help is available for you. Please don't try to go through this process alone. Trust me on this: You'll start to feel better as soon as you speak up and stop bottling up your feelings.