DEAR ABBY: "Hurt and Confused in Oregon" didn't know what to make of the fact that her friend of many years suddenly stopped talking to her. You advised that the reason could be that there's something going on in her friend's life that she's not willing to share.
Anyone whose friend stops communicating -- seemingly for no reason -- should ask him- or herself the following questions:
(1) Are you a braggart? Do you boast incessantly about yourself, your family, your abilities, etc.? Maybe your friend got tired of hearing it.
(2) Are YOU the favorite topic of your conversation? Maybe your friend isn't as fascinated by you as you are!
(3) When something good happens to your friend, do you show genuine happiness, or do you exhibit jealousy and resentment?
(4) Do you encourage your friend and build him/her up -- or do you say things to dampen your friend's spirits, thereby bringing that person down?
Sometimes people say things that alienate others without realizing they are doing so. I speak from experience, Abby. Sign me ... HAD ENOUGH
DEAR HAD ENOUGH: There is always room for improvement. This may be a time when introspection is called for. If one's friends are bailing, an honest look in the mirror may be in order.