DEAR ABBY: My 30-something girlfriend, "Heidi," is in her first year of business school. She is on a committee to organize the graduation party for students who will graduate next month.
It's going to be an all-night "affair" (good choice of words?), and will be held at a hotel, so the drinkers can stay overnight. Heidi is in charge of reserving a block of rooms, and for the past few weeks has been immersed in every detail of the event.
Heidi thinks there's nothing wrong with attending this graduation party as a member of the committee -- as well as staying overnight. I say it's a recipe for disaster. Your opinion is needed ASAP. -- DUMBFOUNDED BOYFRIEND IN NOVA SCOTIA
DEAR DUMBFOUNDED BOYFRIEND: Your girlfriend has worked hard to make this event a success, and I don't blame her for wanting to enjoy it. However, you know Heidi better than I do. If she has shown you in the past that she can't be trusted, you can't be blamed for feeling as you do.
P.S. If she has been as faithful as Fido -- YOU have an insecurity problem you had better deal with before you drive Heidi away.