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by Abigail Van Buren

Girl's Troubled Past Makes Friend Fear for Her Future

DEAR ABBY: I am a 15-year-old girl with a problem. For a couple of months, a close friend of mine, "Casey," was going out with "Michael," a boy from school. They broke up two months ago because Mike wanted to date other girls. Casey was crushed when it happened, although only a week later she was telling everyone (including Mike) that she was "over him." I know it was a lie.

Casey has had major problems in the past -- depression and an eating disorder. It's obvious to me that she hasn't gotten over Mike. In no way is he interested in Casey romantically, but she talks about him 24/7.

Abby, I don't know what to do for Casey. I feel like yelling at her to get the message that Mike's not interested. I've told her that she needs to let go, but it's no use. What now? -- WORRIED ABOUT MY FRIEND IN RHODE ISLAND

DEAR WORRIED: Casey needs some new activities and new interests so she can stop replaying those old tapes in her head. One way to help her forget about Mike would be to introduce her to some new friends. You could also suggest she get into some new activities so she'll have something else to talk about.