DEAR ABBY: I am a 75-year-old married man. Recently a good friend of mine died. He is survived by his wife.
Is it proper for me to call her on a regular basis to see how she is getting along? Would it be more correct to just call her once in a while? Please let me know. -- FRED IN FLORIDA
DEAR FRED: You are a caring friend. It's fine to call her on a regular basis as long as you call her together with your wife.
You and your wife should also, as a couple, invite her out occasionally. Sometimes after a death, friends seem to pull back just when their friendship and support are most needed. I'm sure your friend's widow will appreciate being both remembered and included.