DEAR ABBY: I have been dating "Charlie" for a year. We are going to move in together at the end of the month. Charlie is thoughtful and sweet, and for the first time in my life, I feel I can be totally myself around a man.
Last night, I had my feet propped up on his book bag and the bag fell open. I looked down and saw a pair of black women's panties in the style that he has been badgering me to wear. Next to them were two DVDs with pornographic pictures on the front. I was horrified.
I have trusted Charlie because he really doesn't have time to cheat on me. But why would he carry around another girl's underwear?
Abby, I can't think straight right now. I don't want to make a mistake, and I have no idea what to do. Please help. -- SCARED TO MOVE IN NEW YORK
DEAR SCARED: Ask Charlie to whom the underwear belongs. They could be for you, they could be a souvenir -- or they could be his. The only way to find out is to ask.