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by Abigail Van Buren

Sister Cannot Remain Silent About Brother's Cheatin' Heart

DEAR ABBY: In this period of renewed patriotism, could you please tell me the proper etiquette for listening to our national anthem? I attend many sporting events and have noticed a variety of responses when the anthem begins.

Are women supposed to remove their hats, as well as men? Should you place your right hand over your heart as you would when you say the Pledge of Allegiance? Do you face the flag or the singer? -- WANTING TO BE RESPECTFUL

DEAR WANTING: Stand, face the flag, and either sing along or remain silent. Placing your hand over your heart is optional. Men should remove their hats. Women are not required to. Do not eat, drink or converse for the duration of the song, and when it is finished, cheer and clap to your heart's content.