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by Abigail Van Buren

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DEAR ABBY: At our ages (70 and 78) we average about three funerals a year. Our problem is what to say to the bereaved. I can usually come up with something to say to the spouse, but when it comes to other relatives, who may not know who we are, we're at a loss for words. Any suggestions, Abby? -- TWO SENIORS IN LAKE HAVASU CITY, ARIZ.

DEAR SENIORS: Take the initiative and introduce yourselves warmly, explain your relationship to the deceased -- "An old friend from ..." "Worked with him at ..." "We were golfing buddies ..." -- and say, "We are so sorry for your loss. He/she will be missed."