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by Abigail Van Buren

Disabled Bride to Be Should Relax and Enjoy Her Friends

DEAR ABBY: My brother-in-law (28) and his fiancee (19) make it a practice during family meals to engage in whispered conversation that involves only the two of them. In addition, they spend parts of the meals passionately deep-kissing and rubbing noses.

Am I wrong to feel this behavior is rude, immature and inappropriate? -- LOSING MY APPETITE IN LA PORTE, IND.

DEAR LOSING MY APPETITE: Not at all. In polite company, whispered conversations that exclude others are considered rude. And tongue should not be eaten at the table unless it has first been thoroughly cooked and properly seasoned.