DEAR ABBY: I am a 20-year-old college student. I have been dating a wonderful man I'll call Cyrus for two years. He is sweet, good to me, and I am deeply in love with him. Cyrus has seizures that prevent him from driving a car or working full time. He lives with his mother and stepfather and receives a monthly disability check from the state.
When I tell people about my relationship with Cyrus, the first thing out of their mouths is, "What does he do for a living?" When I explain the situation, some of them turn up their noses and say, "Well, that doesn't sound like a very good excuse."
Abby, I want to marry Cyrus someday. However, these comments have made me wonder if he is the right person for me. I am not a spoiled or snobbish person who will marry only for money.
Should I ask Cyrus to consider finding a part-time job? Should I tell everyone to mind their own business? What should I do? -- WILLING IN WHEELING, W.VA.
DEAR WILLING: Make it your business to research all the information you can about your boyfriend's condition and how it may impact your future -- emotionally and financially. Love can conquer all; however, it's best to fully understand what to expect before making a lifetime commitment.