DEAR ABBY: Would you please put out the word to insensitive people that just because you reach a certain age, it doesn't mean you have to retire? My husband enjoys his job, but is always hounded about when he's going to retire. Because people are 64 or 65 doesn't mean they have to sit down and do nothing. I consider it an insult to be constantly asked when we're going to stop. It's as if they are saying we are old.
I know too many people who sit around waiting to die. Just because a time was set, years ago, for drawing Social Security, that's no reason people have to stop doing what they enjoy. I don't understand why people ask such personal questions. It's a real turn-off. It's as if they're implying that we haven't wisely managed our finances, planned ahead or invested wisely -- which we have. We are active people, younger than our age in many ways.
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I'd be grateful if you would print this for the world to see. -- OFFENDED IN VIRGINIA
DEAR OFFENDED: You're welcome.
Those who assume that folks in their mid-60s who continue working do so because it's necessary may be not only barking up the wrong tree, but also relying on outdated information. In recognition of the fact that our population is living longer and in better health than a generation ago, there are now financial incentives for people to remain in the workplace until age 70. Also, it shouldn't be lost on anyone that people who are successful in their careers and enjoy what they are doing are often unwilling to "hang it up" simply because they've reached a "magic number."
When people tell me they are planning to retire, my first question is always, "Retire to what?" It's vital to stay mentally and physically active -- or old age WILL set in! That's why I have always considered "retirement" a dirty word.