DEAR ABBY: What do you think about a man who refuses to be called Grandpa or Grandad?
My husband is 55 years old and has taught our three young grandchildren to call him "Mr. Dan" (his first name).
He says he cannot abide any form of "grandfather," because it makes him feel like an old man. I am disgusted by his vanity. We are expecting two more grandchildren this year.
What do you think about this? – HOPING TO CHANGE HIS MIND IN NEW YORK
DEAR HOPING: Your husband, surrounded by mounting evidence of his advancing age, appears to be obsessed with youth. If he thinks he can keep Father Time at bay by insisting the grandkids call him something other than "Grandpa" or "Grandad," he's kidding only himself.
Don't beat your head against a stone wall. Until your husband is ready to see this for himself, no one can change his mind.