DEAR ABBY: My husband and I both have full-time jobs. Whenever I suggest that he help out more, his reply is always, "I do what I can."
Abby, if I had that attitude, our dog would be five years dead and the two cats multiplied to 400. The roof would have caved in on all the dust bunnies, a sink of dirty dishes and matching orange crates. Food in the refrigerator would be green and moldy with no way to cook it because of a broken stove. Utility companies would have turned off the power (but we'd still get a breeze through the broken window). Children's services would have arrested us for neglect, I'd still be wearing my college wardrobe, and my smile would reveal no teeth.
I've decided to throw myself a party. I'm inviting the veterinarian, roofer, appliance salesman, landscaper, but not my husband. He is finally going to have to do something -- like call an attorney. Sadly, however, he won't be left regretting his lack of familial duty. His mother will rescue her "baby boy" again.
Women: Take a lesson from someone who's been there. Find out just what it is he CAN do before buying a wedding dress! -- FINALLY FREE
DEAR FINALLY FREE: I am reminded of that old song, "It's So Nice to Have a Man Around the House." I'm sorry that yours failed to live up to your expectations.
In fairness, women should not automatically expect men to fix a roof (or a cat). However, if necessary, they should be able to call someone who can, and schedule an appointment.