DEAR ABBY: I am 20 years old and in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend, who is 36. My problem is he's experiencing problems having sex with me. He says he loves me too much to be able to have sex. He says he almost thinks of me as a child. He also told me that the best sex he's ever had was with someone he always argued with. Is this normal? -- SEXLESS IN EDMONTON
DEAR SEXLESS: Some people find conflict to be a turn-on. This may be normal for him -- but it isn't for you. I would be concerned about being with a man who thinks of you as "a child" and not as a mature woman. You have the right to a healthy, intimate relationship.
The two of you might benefit from couples counseling. It will give you more insight into this man. It will also give you the opportunity to express what you expect from each other, and what you want for yourselves. I wish you luck.