DEAR ABBY: My good friend who is being married soon chose the color of the bridesmaids' dresses and shoes. She even told us to wear our hair in an up-do. I don't mind wearing the dress and shoes she has chosen, or having my hair up -- but now she wants me to color my light brown hair darker. I don't know why she would ask me to do a thing like that. Should I? -- PUZZLED BRIDESMAID IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR BRIDESMAID: The bride has gone overboard in her need to control how everything looks at her wedding. She may want all of her bridesmaids to "blend together" so that she will be the focus of all the attention on her big day. From my perspective, she has gone a little far -- but the decision is yours to make.