DEAR ABBY: May I respond to "Happy Grandmother, Dallas," the grandma of an adopted baby girl, who paid tribute to the courageous sacrifice made by the child's birth mother?
I cried when I read her letter. Her kind, loving words touched me and helped to heal a part of me that has been empty and aching. You see, I recently celebrated the 10th birthday of my son, whom I placed for adoption.
Abby, there are many women like me -- women who are grieving quietly -- wondering every day if what we did was the right thing. Just one small "thank you," even if it was not meant specifically for me, makes me smile and puts a new spring in my step. That's exactly what "Grandma's" letter did for me, and I want to express my thanks. -- SMILING IN THE CAROLINAS
DEAR SMILING: I'm pleased that you found that letter comforting. You -- and all birth mothers who have given up their children -- deserve a star in your crown for having made the most unselfish (and painful) decision a parent can make.