DEAR ABBY: I'm being married in September, and my mother-in-law-to-be wants to wear a white beaded gown to our wedding. I am totally against it and explained my view to her. She still insists on wearing white. I told her it was not proper etiquette, but she says she has never heard that before. Can you help me convince her? -– BLUSHING BRIDE IN LAS VEGAS
DEAR BLUSHING: Clip this column and tell your fiance's mother that she's hearing it now. According to the "Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette, Entirely Rewritten and Updated" by Nancy Tuckerman and Nancy Dunnan: "The bride's mother with the bride decides what she will wear at her daughter's wedding and then tells the groom's mother so she can coordinate her dress. NEITHER MOTHER SHOULD WEAR BLACK OR WHITE." (Italics are mine.)
I hope your fiance's mother will save her white-beaded dress for another occasion -– or you won't be the only person blushing at your wedding.