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by Abigail Van Buren

Son Accepts Gay Dad's Gifts but Not His Longtime Lover

CONFIDENTIAL TO "LOCKED UP IN SAN DIEGO": You must find the courage to perform another "brave" deed. Write a short note to the San Diego chief of police. Explain that you have been locked in a house with no access to a telephone, by a husband who has raped and beaten you. Ask him to help you get out. The police can help you locate a shelter for abused women. After that, regardless of what your husband promises, stay away and do not look back!