DEAR ABBY: I am on the board of a religious institution. An unusual problem has come to my attention.
One of our most active members is extremely overweight. When he sits on our folding chairs and chapel chairs, he invariably bends them down, making them uncomfortable and almost unusable.
Abby, we can't afford to replace a chair each time he comes to church, but neither can we afford to offend a deeply religious brother. What can we do to resolve this problem? -- CHURCH ELDER
DEAR CHURCH ELDER: He's probably just as uncomfortable sitting in those chairs as you are watching him. Go to a Goodwill, Salvation Army or other thrift store and get him an armchair. (He'll most likely thank you for it.) Or consider labeling one chair as his only and make sure he always sits in the same one.