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by Abigail Van Buren

Wife Reluctant to Surrender to Husband's Briefs Revolt

DEAR ABBY: What do you think about a person who refuses to wear underwear? My husband is driving me crazy.

He hates clothing and usually runs around the house in a pair of old shorts worn well below the waistline, no shirt and no underwear. When no one but me is there, he goes completely naked. He says he would like to join a nudist colony because he hates clothing so much.

We have been married many years, and over the years I have bought him just about every brand of men's underwear to try. He hated them all.

Abby, I love my husband and am not contemplating divorce or anything like that, but I'm grossed out by his refusal to wear underwear.

If you say I should learn to live with it (which I mostly have anyway), I will try to keep my mouth shut. I hope you don't think this letter is too ridiculous to print. Oh, by the way, my husband insists that there are many people out there like him. -- WIFE OF ALMOST NAKED HUSBAND IN K.C.

DEAR WIFE OF ALMOST NAKED HUSBAND: I'm sure there are many people of both sexes who find underwear too confining and opt not to wear any. To say it "briefly," it's a matter of personal choice. If this is the only thing about your husband that bothers you, consider yourself fortunate, and avert your gaze.

DEAR ABBY: My 18-year-old son can't -- or won't -- get himself out of bed in the morning for work. He relies on my wife or me to get him up. He has an alarm clock, but he turns it off and goes right back to sleep.

Two nights ago, I told him I would no longer be responsible for getting him out of bed in the morning; it was time for him to assume responsibility for himself. He countered with the accusation that if he lost his job because he was late, it would be my fault for not waking him.

Abby, I would feel bad if he lost his job, but I can't see that it would be my fault. Should I continue to be his human alarm clock or let the chips fall where they may? Is it wrong to make a young adult face the music for his actions (or lack of them, in this case)? -- DAD, THE MORNING ROOSTER

DEAR DAD: No, it's not wrong to make your son face the consequences of his actions. He's an adult now, and it's time for him to get up on his own. Anyone can do it if he's properly motivated, and you won't always be around to pry him out of bed. You gave your son an important wake-up call: It's time for him to rise and shine on his own.

DEAR ABBY: Can a woman who has been divorced multiple times choose any of her former husbands' last names?

My former wife has been married three times. I was her first husband more than 20 years ago. When we were married, she used my last name. During each of her other marriages, she went by that husband's name, but when each ended, she reverted back to mine.

I have demanded that she stop using my name, as I believe that she no longer has a right to do so. I have told her that she should use either her maiden name, or the last name of her last husband. -- DENNIS DYER, SAN PEDRO, CALIF.

DEAR DENNIS: Your former wife can call herself anything she wishes as long as the purpose is not to defraud. However, she may not call herself Mrs. Dennis Dyer, as it might cause her to be confused with your current wife.

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