DEAR ABBY: My wedding was called off a month ago. I understand now that God is trying to fix some things in my life before he allows me to take such a big step.
I'm a very insecure person. It is hard for me to trust -- and that caused me many problems in our relationship. However, I am around my "ex" every day. We have the same friends. We broke up with the understanding that we would remain friends.
Abby, my ex-fiance deals with things by avoiding a confrontation. At the moment, he isn't speaking to me, which makes me feel sick at heart. I know he's hurting, too. I want nothing but to be there for him. I don't want to crowd him or make him think I'm chasing him. How do I deal with his ignoring me? -- AMY IN RURAL ILLINOIS
DEAR AMY: It may be difficult to distance yourself from your ex-fiance in your small town, but it would be a happier situation for both of you if you stayed out of each other's sight for a while. It has only been a month since your engagement ended and you are both hurting. Breaking up is painful. Although you would like to continue the friendship as if nothing had happened, your "ex" is trying to put the romance behind him by avoiding you. Give it some time, Amy. Life will get better.