DEAR ABBY: Thirty years ago you gave me some good advice on a bad situation, so here I am again.
My husband and I lived together for two years before we got married. During that time he would help me around the house, go grocery shopping with me, and even accompany me to church. After marriage, all that stopped.
We have been married for four years. Now I eat breakfast alone while he sleeps until noon. I grocery-shop alone, attend church alone (too early for him) and go to the senior center alone -- he is 70 years old and says the people there are "too old" for him. Oh, by the way, I also go to bed alone. He's decided we're too old for sex. All he does is eat, sleep and sit! I feel like I'm only a housekeeper. -- FED UP IN HUNTSVILLE, ALA.
DEAR FED UP: You and your husband are overdue for a heart-to-heart talk. The topic of conversation should be "What has happened to the charming, helpful, loving companion I married -- because I don't know or particularly like the person you've become." His response will tell you whether your marriage can be revived through counseling and mutual effort -- or whether you'd be better off without him.