DEAR ABBY: Our 21-year-old grandson, who has always been the apple of our eye, has just announced that he is the "proud" father of a baby boy born to his 20-year-old girlfriend. They are living together, he has a good job, but no mention has been made of any forthcoming marriage. They just say they are "engaged."
My wife and I have decided that until they get married we are not giving them a wedding present. We gave our granddaughter a generous cash wedding gift after her wedding, and we are prepared to do the same for this grandson, but not until -- regardless of how many illegitimate children he has!
Also, do you think a baby gift is in order for an illegitimate child? -- UNCERTAIN IN MINNESOTA
DEAR UNCERTAIN: Wedding gifts are for couples who are wedded -- not merely bedded. But do send a gift for the baby. And please don't label him "illegitimate." There are no illegitimate children -- only illegitimate parents.