DEAR ABBY: I am a 71-year-old widow who has read your column for years. You've had letters about older men who are reluctant to become romantically involved because prostate problems have left them impotent. Yes, there are women, as you say, who prefer a sexless relationship. I am one of them. When I meet a gentleman, early on in our acquaintance I let him know that I do not want to become sexually involved.
My reason: I have an ugly body from my waist down. My thighs are heavy and I have developed what is called "drop stomach" or an "apron."
I joined a gym class and exercise regularly, but there is nothing I can do about this apron of flesh that just hangs down. This is very discouraging because I would like to have a gentleman in my life, but when I let a man know I want a sexless relationship, he loses interest in me.
Surgery (a "tummy tuck") is not an option for me. Ten years ago I had face-lift, and I've already had my eyelids lifted, and that's enough surgery for me.
My husband left me fairly well-off, so I don't have to marry a man for his money. What advice do you have for me? -- ABBY FAN IN ARIZONA
DEAR FAN: Most older men who marry older women do not care if the woman has an "apron" of flesh that hangs down. If you can overlook a man's potbelly, he can overlook your "apron."
The organ of the body that is most important in romance is -- believe it or not -- the EAR. What lovers hear when they make love can work wonders in achieving satisfaction. Trust me.