DEAR ABBY: After 40 years of a happy marriage and seven children, I became a widower. I have always been close to the children.
Two years after my wife died I met "Bernice," a lovely widow. We were married a year later, and my children were happy for us.
Bernice and I travel extensively. We love each other and life is good. We have lived in Florida for the last five years. We both feel that Florida is our home, and we wish to remain here for eternity. With that in mind, we purchased adjoining funeral plots in a nearby cemetery.
My children are very upset about this and feel that I have slighted their mother. I understand their feelings, but what does one do? My present wife has cared for me, and she will until my demise, or hers. Our lives together are meaningful. I don't want my children to think that I didn't love their mother. I did, but I have a new life now. Am I wrong? -- A FLORIDIAN
DEAR FLORIDIAN: No. The decision about where your final resting place will be should be up to you and your present wife. Since you wish to be buried next to each other in Florida, that is what you should do. Your children are adults and should respect your decision.