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by Abigail Van Buren

Employees Feel Cruel Blast of Owner's Explosive Temper

DEAR ABBY: I am writing on behalf of families who have lost a loved one, or have a family member who is seriously ill. Preparing food for the grieving family is one of the ways to show love and concern. However, I would like to suggest that the food be sent in disposable containers.

The last thing families need to worry about is which dish, platter or bowl belongs to whom, or how to return it to the rightful owner.

Many disposable containers are available at minimum expense. Another suggestion would be to shop garage sales for "odds and ends" plates and casserole dishes that are attractive -- but not something that would need to be returned. During difficult times, our efforts should be to make life as easy and uncomplicated as possible. -- DISCREET IN LOUISIANA

DEAR DISCREET: The last time I endorsed disposable dishes the environmentalists disapproved in droves. However, your second suggestion is a very good one if you have the time and money to shop the yard sales. If not, an address label attached to the bottom of the container should ensure its return.