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by Abigail Van Buren

Mom Worries That Son in Jail Will Sentence Family to Grief

DEAR ABBY: The woman who was upset because her husband's friend held his fork incorrectly just about sent me through the roof. I wish all I had to worry about was how my friends held their dinner forks.

I'd like to tell that woman that if more people would hold their forks in their fists like a 3-year-old child, but were smart, college-educated, well-mannered and had great personalities, our country would be much better off.

I suppose a man could be a rapist, murderer or drug dealer, but as long as he held his dinner fork properly, he'd be OK? That woman should come down from her pedestal and start dealing with issues like world peace, abused children, caring for the elderly, and feeding the homeless -- who would be happy just to eat, let alone hold a fork properly! -- S.B., ROSEBURG, ORE.