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by Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: I am a 13-year-old girl. I have a sister who is 19 and has been married for a year. One day last week, her husband told me how beautiful he thought I was and how much I had developed lately.

Later he gave me a ride to my girlfriend's house to pick up my bike. On the way back it was quite dark. All of a sudden he stopped the truck and asked me for a hug. I thought, "What the heck, he did me a favor to drive me to pick up my bike, so it's no big deal to give him a hug." Well, it was a real long hug, and he wouldn't let me go. Then he asked me for a kiss, and I said, "No way ... no, NO!" He knew I really meant it, so he let me go. Neither one of us said a word until he dropped me off at my house.

I really feel uncomfortable around him now. I can't tell my sister or anyone else because my sister really loves him and I couldn't live with myself if I made trouble in her marriage.

If you want to print this to warn other teens who may run into a problem like this, please don't use my name. -- THE KID SISTER

DEAR SISTER: You were very, very wise. Thanks for sharing your experience as a warning to other young girls who could be taken advantage of by a relative or close friend.

DEAR ABBY: We got a good chuckle out of "Very Disappointed" who spent her wedding night on a fold-out couch in a fancy hotel. Your advice to double-check reservations was very good, but it doesn't always work. Here's our story:

We had arranged the "honeymoon package" at the then brand-new Hilton in Erie, Pa. We arrived late on our wedding night and were warmly welcomed at the front desk. When we got to our room, we found the promised bottle of champagne and a very lovely large room -- but no bed! It seems one of the couches was a fold-out bed with one pillow and a set of sheets (no blanket)! When we telephoned downstairs, we were informed that the hotel was full and "housekeeping" was closed for the night, so we were out of luck.

When we folded out the bed and sat on it -- it collapsed!

But what the heck? We've had many laughs over that story through the years. We've often said that a couple without a sense of humor could have broken up over such a series of incidents. Let's hope the honeymoon couple in that classy Dallas hotel survived their disappointment.

As for us, 13 years later, we're ... STILL LAUGHING IN GRASS VALLEY, CALIF.

CONFIDENTIAL TO V.N.: You know you're getting old when a lady you've never met before is seated next to you at a dinner party and she asks which is your good ear.

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