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by Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: About a year and a half ago, I moved to a retirement facility in Oregon. Ever since, I have been swamped with mail-order catalogs (unsolicited) to the point that when the mail is delivered each day, there are more catalogs delivered than my mailbox can hold!

In the past you have, from time to time, printed an address to which one could write in order to put a stop to this nuisance. Would you please print it again? I am ... KNEE-DEEP IN JUNK MAIL

DEAR KNEE-DEEP: Not only do some catalog companies make money by selling their merchandise; they also make a bundle by selling their customer lists to one another. Therefore, once you order anything by catalog you may find yourself on many other mailing lists, and the recipient of many unwanted solicitations.

If you shop at home but want to lessen the unsolicited advertising mail you receive, simply ask the companies with which you do business not to rent your name to other mailers.

Your other option, the Mail Preference Service, screens out the national advertising mail and should be used by consumers who do not want to receive such solicitations. To have your name deleted from these lists, write to: Mail Preference Service, Direct Marketing Association Inc., P.O. Box 3861, New York, N.Y. 10163-3861. There is no charge for this service.

DEAR ABBY: I thought I'd share with you a very poignant letter that appeared in the San Francisco Chronicle recently. Perhaps you will want to share it with your readers. -- S.K. IN HAYWARD, CALIF.

DEAR S.K.: I think it is well worth sharing with my readers. It appeared in the "Letters to the Editor" section, and here it is:


Can I march in your parade, too? I came back from World War II after being in five battles, and I don't remember any ticker tape.

We were near Japan on VJ Day and didn't get to participate, unlike some of the lucky National Guardsmen in the latest short war.

In 1945, we were so jumpy from kamikaze attacks that we had a general quarters alarm after the Japanese surrendered. It was very remote from the joyful madness I saw displayed in pictures of Market Street.

Our ship's company had not seen civilization in over a year, and it was another eight months before I was mustered out.

Can I be in your parade now? -- ROBERT L. HEATON, LAFAYETTE, CALIF.

CONFIDENTIAL TO G.H. IN OTTAWA, CANADA: "The more things a man is ashamed of, the more respectable he is." (George Bernard Shaw) You, sir, are a very respectable man.

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