DEAR ABBY: It is again time for the Operation Dear Abby/America Remembers Campaign and the great work it does for our servicemen and women stationed overseas -- and, for the first time, here at home.
From my years of experience as a Navy fighter pilot, I know the importance of the Operation Dear Abby/America Remembers Campaigns. A supportive card or letter to a young man or woman serving our nation can make all the difference in the world.
Operation Dear Abby/America Remembers played a major role during Operation Desert Storm, and we need to keep the momentum going with the America Remembers "Adopt a Unit" program.
For years, schools, groups and communities have been able to "adopt" U.S. military units stationed overseas. Now, for the first time ever, thanks to the Armed Services YMCA, local units in the United States can be "adopted." (Not all the troops stationed here in the United States get to go home for the holidays!)
School groups and communities can "adopt" a ship or unit for the holidays by sending a stamped, self-addressed business-sized envelope (No. 10 envelope) to: Operation Dear Abby/America Remembers, c/o Taco Bell Corp., 17901 Von Karmen, Irvine, Calif. 92714.
Each group will receive a newsletter and other materials on the unit it "adopts." Once again, dozens of volunteers from Taco Bell will process the incoming material.
As the first honorary national chairman of the America Remembers Campaign, I want to say "well done" to America Remembers, Taco Bell, and to you and your readers. -- RANDY "DUKE" CUNNINGHAM, HONORARY NATIONAL CHAIRMAN, 1991 AMERICA REMEMBERS CAMPAIGN
DEAR ABBY: I am getting married soon, and I have my bridal party already picked out, but I have a slight problem. I would like to change my maid of honor because we are no longer as close friends as we used to be.
I am wondering how I should go about telling her I have changed my mind without hurting her feelings. -- CHANGED MY MIND
DEAR CHANGED: How long ago did you ask her to be your maid of honor? If it was a childhood promise made several years ago and you have since drifted apart, she may be relieved to be replaced. Discuss it with her.
However, if you asked her recently, there is no way to tell her you no longer want her to be your maid of honor without hurting her feelings.
DEAR ABBY: I am a 79-year-old woman living at the California State Veterans Home in the beautiful Napa Valley.
One of the first questions I'm asked when I tell people that I live at the Veterans Home is: "Oh, was your husband a veteran?"
Abby, I proudly served as a master sergeant in the U.S. Army during World War II and in the Korean conflict. When will people learn that women are veterans, too?
Abby, perhaps if you publish this, it will serve to remind millions of people that there are women veterans, too. -- MARTHA L. WALKER, YOUNTVILLE, CALIF.
DEAR MARTHA: Consider it done.
Everything you'll need to know about planning a wedding can be found in Abby's booklet, "How to Have a Lovely Wedding." To order, send a long, business-size, self-addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $3.95 ($4.50 in Canada) to: Dear Abby, Wedding Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, Ill. 61054. (Postage is included.)
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