DEAR ABBY: I am getting married soon, and I have my bridal party already picked out, but I have a slight problem. I would like to change my maid of honor because we are no longer as close friends as we used to be.
I am wondering how I should go about telling her I have changed my mind without hurting her feelings. -- CHANGED MY MIND
DEAR CHANGED: How long ago did you ask her to be your maid of honor? If it was a childhood promise made several years ago and you have since drifted apart, she may be relieved to be replaced. Discuss it with her.
However, if you asked her recently, there is no way to tell her you no longer want her to be your maid of honor without hurting her feelings.