Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Is It Overkill on the Deep Cleaning?

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Sometimes I just don’t get it. My wife is forever deep cleaning our apartment. She steams the carpets and living room furniture at least every other week. I’ve told her I read too much steam cleaning can damage your furniture and carpet and can even cause mold, but she doesn’t seem to get it.

We have a toddler, so she thinks the best thing to do is keep everything as sanitary as possible, but I think she’s doing our daughter a disservice and maybe even exposing her to mold.

Should I worry my wife is becoming some kind of germophobic? --- LIKE A LITTLE DIRT

DEAR LIKE A LITTLE DIRT: Given everything that’s been going on, it’s possible your wife is just doing what she thinks is best to protect her family. However, your point about too much not necessarily being a good thing is also a valid one, for a number of reasons.

Maybe if you share with her some of the information you’ve found regarding the potentially adverse effects of overcleaning, she’ll consider changing up her housekeeping routines a bit.

But remember when you broach the subject, be sure to give her credit for her motives and efforts.

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