Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Recent Bride Sees Wedding Copycat in the Family

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Less than a year ago my husband and I got married at a beautiful lodge in the mountains not far from where we live. My sister-in-law, who was also my maid of honor, just announced her engagement and that they had already booked the same venue we had. Not only did they copy our venue, but it’s like she is re-creating our wedding in her image. The dress she showed me is very different from mine, but otherwise, from the tuxes to the menu and flowers, it might as well be our wedding all over again.

She’s asked me to be her maid of honor, and I have said yes, but I feel what she’s doing is just wrong. Why can’t she plan her own wedding instead of copying mine? --- SISTER-IN-LAW OF A COPYCAT

DEAR SISTER-IN-LAW OF A COPYCAT: Haven’t you ever heard that imitation is the highest form of flattery? It seems your sister-in-law was so impressed with your wedding that she wants to guarantee her day will be a success, as I’m hoping yours was.

As her maid of honor, she’ll probably rely on you for support and encouragement. It’s going to be your job to put your feelings second to her needs, and if she continues to keep her plans close to yours, help make sure all goes as well as possible.

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