Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Father-in-Law's Offer Is Rejected by DIL

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My father is a very generous man. He has offered to hire a live-in nanny to help us out when our second baby arrives in two months. My wife is dead set against it, and I don’t entirely get why. She keeps saying her mother managed four kids without a nanny, and she doesn’t like the idea of having someone else in the house with us all the time.

I keep trying to tell her it will be good to have a chance to recover from the pregnancy and delivery, but she just wants her mom to come stay with us for two or three weeks and then she wants to get back to it being just the four of us. Why would anyone not want to have help with two kids? I don’t get it. --- CONFUSED SON AND HUSBAND

DEAR CONFUSED SON AND HUSBAND: While it seems like an ideal situation to you to have hired help for your growing family, it sounds as if your wife has already worked out an arrangement that she’s more comfortable with. Things may change down the road, but for now, you and your dad need to respect her wishes and put the live-in nanny idea on the back burner.

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