Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Dad Thinks Daughter's New Look Sends Wrong Message

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: We live in the countryside. My neighbors, who are my boyfriend’s son and daughter-in-law, have a 2-year-old boy who is allowed to go about naked.

I am fairly OK with this at their home, but they often bring him over to our home like that. It's not all that appetizing when they are here for dinner. 

I seem to be the only one that this offends. I am of the opinion that the child should wear clothing when away from home. I am sure this situation will solve itself in time and when the weather cools. 

My boyfriend overheard me talking about this while I was on the phone with a friend and became indignant, saying he’s just a baby, and, “What’s the big deal?”

I was just asking her what she thought about this. What are your thoughts on the matter? --- PUT SOME CLOTHES ON

DEAR PUT SOME CLOTHES ON: My first thought is that your boyfriend’s family sees your house as an extension of their own, and may have no clue that you’re offended by their young son’s nudity. However, it’s your home too, and if you would like to make a house rule about guests having at least a pair of pants on, then you should work on that with your boyfriend.

My next thought is about potty training. There is a “bare bottom” method, but if the child isn’t in the process of getting trained, what happens when he has to go? Accidents do happen, and it’s certainly a talking point to consider raising with at least your boyfriend.

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