Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Ill Treatment of Cleaning Crew Angers Coworker

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: As part of my job, I have to work late two nights a week. I am usually still at my workstation when the cleaning crew comes in.

There is another guy who sits near me and is on the same schedule. It’s always been my impression of this guy that he’s a bit of a jerk, but he surpasses even that category by how he treats the people who clean the office. He purposely misses his wastebasket, “accidentally” spills coffee and tea all over the breakroom counters and floors, and worst of all, he makes nasty comments about their ethnicity, loud enough that they can’t help but hear him.

I have to work with this guy, but would I be wrong in telling our supervisor, who works alternate nights from us, what’s going on? --- STUCK WITH A JERK

DEAR STUCK WITH A JERK: You don’t mention if you tried speaking to your coworker about his behavior, but I’m guessing from the picture you paint of him, whatever you have to say would most likely not make much of a difference to him.

It’s time to talk to your supervisor about what’s going on when he or she isn’t around. No one should be treated the way this man is treating the cleaning crew, and his attitude towards them is indicative about how he very likely treats other people, and no employer is going to want to deal with potential legal problems because one of their staff members acts the way your coworker does.

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